Midlife blues or crisis is a common phenomenon among adults aged 40-60 years. According to mental health experts, at this stage of life, most people face inner turmoil about identity, life choices, and mortality.

The term was coined by psychoanalyst Elliot Jaques in the 1960s when he observed that patients between the ages of 30 and 35 went through depressive episodes and made sudden lifestyle changes as they began to think about their own death.

According to studies, this condition occurs regardless of life circumstances, such as whether your income is high, you have children at home, you take care of elderly parents, or you have a successful career. However, experts say that at this age, it is normal to feel disappointment when expectations are not met, which creates a negative feedback cycle – where you may feel bad and then feel guilty for feeling bad.

Ways to deal with middle-age grief like a boss

Research says that depression and stress tend to decrease as you age. Even though things get better in the later part of life, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take steps to combat midlife malaise. Here are some expert-backed ideas:

Make it normal

Since it is a well-known fact that midlife crisis is a phase of life and a universal phenomenon, you should stop blaming yourself for your feelings and learn to accept them as they are.

This doesn’t mean you won’t be disappointed, but at least you can stop blaming yourself for your feelings.

Live in the present

Living in the present and not worrying about the future requires strong mental resolve. Experts recommend mindfulness meditation, physical exercises like yoga, tai chi, Zumba, and others so that you can have more control over your thoughts and emotions, stay alert, and become non-judgmental.

Share with your friends

If you are dissatisfied with middle age, instead of hiding your feelings, it is better to approach your close friends and talk to them openly. Experts say that sharing your feelings with friends who listen to you with compassion will strengthen your relationship and help you feel less alone.

Maintain a sense of purpose

People go through a lot of changes in their midlife – divorce, a job change, a rift with friends or family members or an empty house can be devastating. However, you need to maintain a sense of purpose by trying new things, indulging in old interests and getting involved in community service.

Prioritize self-care

Middle age can bring a lot of physical changes to your appearance, sleep habits, and relationship with food. You may have difficulty sleeping or face digestive problems. So, instead of getting frustrated with these changes, it is extremely important to take some time every day to embrace these changes and make your schedule accordingly. Avoid eating foods that cause indigestion and practice things that can help you get your sleep schedule back on track.

Practice Gratitude

Whatever you have achieved in your life so far cannot be changed by a few negative emotions. Take time to appreciate your life journey and the people who have been with you through it all. Make a list of things you are grateful for – your parents’ long life, your children’s progress, a stable job, financial independence or a happy marriage and relationship.

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