The moment we are born, hopes start molding us. Parents see what their children will do, the grandparents “working the way they were worked” and the society presents us with an ignorant list for success.

Expectations may be inspiring, but they can also suffocate – especially when our own dreams do not match them. The pressure to fulfill the expectations of those who cares for us can be tremendous, which we get stuck in the midst of the desire to please them and desire to live life according to our terms.

Society, Family and Friends – they all have got a scorecard for you. But do anything to deviate from the invisible template created for your life, and you are losing faster points compared to the game show contestant, who have wrapped the field on the wrong answer.

The thing is, we all want to be proud of our families. It has been among us from a young age when our parents first appreciated to roam on two legs. But the expectations of the minute are a strategic list of tasks that are more with someone else’s desires than our own desires, the pressure becomes very great.

We all reach that intestinal moment: telling our loved ones that we could not be the person they thought we would be. Perhaps you don’t want to become a doctor. Perhaps you are not ready to have children. Perhaps you just want to travel to the world and stay in a van. The idea of ​​looking at disappointment is enough to cross their face so that anyone can sweat.

But the thing is that being something else is a thousand times worse than some people temporarily disappointed. Certainly, your mother will sigh on the change in your career, and your father will think about your choice, but usually, their concern is because they care. They just want you to be safe, happy and successful (with a pension scheme, if possible).

The weight of trying to live for others who wants others is crushing, but the only one who has to live with your decisions. So while you want to please your family, don’t forget this – your own happiness is not on their scoreboard. Sometimes the biggest win is just to release the need to compete fully.

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